The new year has begun and I have had some time now to reflect on the past year and look towards the future.
Now that pretty much everyone knows that I am single, I have noticed a change in some people. For one, some people feel an intense need to find me a man. Pretty much the first guy they can think of is the winner in their head. Forget that they barely know the guy or that it would never work in a million years. Pretty much any single guy is a target ( WARNING -if you are a single 
male...beware you may be the next in the line of fire...I'm not kidding). Though I laugh about it, because it is kind of funny, I have serious qualms with being "set up". Though I have never been on a blind date before, they just sound like a nightmare. So to those who have attempted this, I love you dearly, but it ain't gonna happen that way!Another change is that many have begun to give me strange bits of advice. Though I totally appreciate their "wisdom of dating"...I guess that's what I would call it...it is also a bit intimidating and humiliating at the same time. It's been awhile for me and people know that so they have v
ery good intentions I know. I mean the whole "there are plenty of fish in the sea" cliche has been a used a few times and then there's "a perfect guy out there for you" line as well. Those aren't so bad, I am a romantic and so I believe those quirky little sayings. It's when my age gets brought up that kinda freaks me out. For example, one of my family members whom I saw recently at a family function, was so supportive as we discussed my current situation and then...BAM... five little words popped out of her mouth "don't worry about your age". I stood there a little dumbfounded because I never really thought of it that way. Was my age a problem for dating again? I felt like I was in a movie where the voice in my head started to speak to the audience realizing that to some I may seem like a spinster at the early age of "almost" thirty. What? Have I really become the girl who the family has pity for because she isn't in a relationship at...gasp...thirty...I mean almost thirty? 
To add a cherry to that special weekend, I was also summoned to the bridal bouquet toss at a wedding on the d.j.'s microphone. Yes let's remind the entire wedding party and guests that "Tri-sha Maa-no" is single. I felt like I was wearing a huge red S on my dress the rest of the night (for single or spinster, I'll let you interpret it as you like.)
male...beware you may be the next in the line of fire...I'm not kidding). Though I laugh about it, because it is kind of funny, I have serious qualms with being "set up". Though I have never been on a blind date before, they just sound like a nightmare. So to those who have attempted this, I love you dearly, but it ain't gonna happen that way!Another change is that many have begun to give me strange bits of advice. Though I totally appreciate their "wisdom of dating"...I guess that's what I would call it...it is also a bit intimidating and humiliating at the same time. It's been awhile for me and people know that so they have v
ery good intentions I know. I mean the whole "there are plenty of fish in the sea" cliche has been a used a few times and then there's "a perfect guy out there for you" line as well. Those aren't so bad, I am a romantic and so I believe those quirky little sayings. It's when my age gets brought up that kinda freaks me out. For example, one of my family members whom I saw recently at a family function, was so supportive as we discussed my current situation and then...BAM... five little words popped out of her mouth "don't worry about your age". I stood there a little dumbfounded because I never really thought of it that way. Was my age a problem for dating again? I felt like I was in a movie where the voice in my head started to speak to the audience realizing that to some I may seem like a spinster at the early age of "almost" thirty. What? Have I really become the girl who the family has pity for because she isn't in a relationship at...gasp...thirty...I mean almost thirty? 
To add a cherry to that special weekend, I was also summoned to the bridal bouquet toss at a wedding on the d.j.'s microphone. Yes let's remind the entire wedding party and guests that "Tri-sha Maa-no" is single. I felt like I was wearing a huge red S on my dress the rest of the night (for single or spinster, I'll let you interpret it as you like.) So that's where I am at for now and as I said it is an ongoing event and so updates will be posted again...soon I am sure. Until then xoxo!
2 comments:
NO NO NO!! Who are these people trying to set you up?!? Enjoy being SINGLE & discovering yourself! And the whole age thing ... OH PLEEEZE!!
luv u lots, you are amazing the way you are!
I get it.....I went thru the same thing years ago. It seemed that so many wishful friend's had, "THE PERFECT GUY" for me..Ugh!I was happy to be loved by well wishers, but really didn't feel comfy being set up. Eventually, Jesus gave me a job where I met my husband Jason and the rest is called matrimony bliss! We met almost 12 years ago & have been married for almost 5 years....being friends first was the key to our success!I like what Dan Dan wrote...truthful & very well put! :-) I really enjoyed your blog. Your brother is handsome - he looks just like your pretty Mom! You're all hotties!
Luv, Kimberly
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